You will learn to control life, but then stop and let go.
Addicts have no control over their addiction. As a result, their kids will feel the urge to control their lives.
Dating such a control addict is not an easy task. They will take control over your life, while also trying to control their own.
This means drama if you think of canceling plans or acting spontaneous. This will cause you to make a habit of controlling your life. But one day, you will wake up and decide to let go.
If you really love your partner, you will work with him or her in order to teach him or her to let go as well. When this happens, you will thrive as a couple.